Words just don't explain reality, they create reality. Every sound that comes out of your mouth, every word you utter, has some kind of effect on your partner. So choose what to say or not to say carefully.
Following these guidelines will help you keep your marriage happy.
• Always be nice and respectful when you are speaking to every other. Avoid rudeness, mockery and backbiting.
• Tell your partner you love him/her sincerely from the first day of the marriage. Even if you think they know it already, or you are expressing your love through your actions, it makes a world you variation to them to hear you say it!
• Praise your partner’s strengths. Acknowledge whole-heartedly all his/her offerings to the family.
• If your partner makes any mistakes, instead of criticizing directly, explain it to them nicely at the right time.
• Communicate in a way so that your partner does not feel blamed or judged. For example, instead of saying, “You’ve hurt me”, say, “I was hurt.” In the first case, your spouse would feel a need to defend himself, in the second case, he would feel understanding for you.
• Never criticize your partner in front of others.
• Apologize without hesitation for your own mistakes.
• In the case of misunderstandings, talk about the position and resolve it before either of you is bitter about it. This is very important. It is much more difficult to resolve the position once one of you has become bitter and put up a wall.
• Make sure you talk directly to your spouse; involving third parties in such situations can be ruinous.
• Do not ridicule or scornfulness your partner’s family.
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